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Circle of Relationships
Growing up I led a nomadic existence. My father had been a Green Beret and after his service we made several moves across the country as he tried to find his place in the world. Because of this I attended 13 different schools before finishing high school. This created in me an inability to understand friendship in healthy ways. I could make “friends” anywhere, but I didn’t know how to keep them. It was most difficult with girls. Girls are hard… They typically didn’t like the
Shay Horner
Apr 17, 20235 min read


The Antichrist
A person who I know, love and trust, that is actually a Republican, said something to me yesterday that I have been saying myself for many years now. He said, “Maybe Trump isn’t the Antichrist, like many believe. Maybe he’s the one that makes things so bad, that the real Antichrist will be able to come into the picture and say, ‘Look at what this man has done, and he did it all being backed these Christians!” I know that many of my friends aren’t Christians, and have no under
Shay Horner
5 days ago6 min read


History
People have to stop white washing our history! It wasn’t just old white man history! Our Nation’s history wasn’t “great” for a vast number of our citizens, and removing their history from our National story does NOT mean that it didn’t happen. Removing it only insures that it will happen again, and we see people trying to do that now! Christian Nationalism, Project 2025, the Heritage Foundation, the New Apostolic Reformation, the 7 Mountains Movement, and on and on, who hold
Shay Horner
Oct 13 min read


Do I Have a CTD (Connective Tissue Disorder)?
This was a question asked in a support group that I used to be an administrator for. Sometimes my blog posts come from my answers to member’s questions there, like this one. If you have them throughout your spine, at multiple levels, it’s an indication that your tissue is weak and you likely have a CTD. There are hundreds of different types, and most can’t be tested for. They are diagnosed by symptoms, and this is a symptom. For example, I have 11 in my cervical spine alone.
Shay Horner
Jun 153 min read


The Prosperity Doctrine
The Prosperity Doctrine, that many Christians believe, is one of the greatest weapons of destruction that the Devil has created, to turn people away from God. I just experienced a very disheartening discussion with a well intentioned but ignorant Christian, regarding this topic. If there is one doctrine that I have witnessed in my life, that has turned away more people from Jesus, it is this one. It turned me away from the Church for years. Thankfully, my faith was stronger t
Shay Horner
May 287 min read


GLP-1 and Lowering CSF (cerebrospinal fluid)
This post is for patients who have high cerebrospinal fluid, which can complicate Tarlov Cysts treatment, and cause worse symptoms, with nerve compression on cysts. As always, talk with your healthcare provider about any medical decisions that you want to try. In 2018 I had a very successful surgery on my sacral cysts, which gave me about 85% healing. Prior to surgery I was partially paralyzed, had bladder disfunction, always felt like I had a UTI, I felt like I had a dagger
Shay Horner
Apr 145 min read


Wounded
Today I was reminded of a few women in my life, who I have given my heart, and everything else in me to, for many years, who eventually turned on me as quick as a serpent, and said the most hurtful, vile, and evil things about me. I never responded in anger and I never attacked back. I never “took the bait” and gave in to my anger, because I always understood a few things. Number 1, anger is generally caused by being hurt, and when I am hurt I know that silence is always bes
Shay Horner
Oct 30, 20254 min read


Diversity of Friendships
Yesterday, in one day I communicated with friends in Scandinavia, Jamaica, and Iraq. Oh, and Kenya the day before. How diverse is your circle? When you love people from all over the world, you care on a personal level. It’s not just some abstract idea, of a sea of people who don’t look like you do, anymore. These people are more like us than many give them credit for, because many people don’t know anyone beyond their own “bubble”. They want the same things, and usually much
Shay Horner
Oct 26, 20254 min read


The Militia Mindset
I have a unique understanding of the mindset of these militia bullies, and the types of men who become members of ICE, and other armed agencies. Not all of them join for these reasons, but those positions do attract many men with similar stories. My dad had a very difficult childhood, and towards the end of his life he shared with me that he had been molested by a couple of teen boys when he was young. From then on, he had to prove his masculinity, for himself, and to get his
Shay Horner
Aug 25, 20255 min read


Using the Name of Jesus does not make you a Christian
Jesus said, in Matthew 7:21-23 “21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who...
Shay Horner
Jul 16, 20253 min read


God’s Time, Not Our Time
Our time is not God’s time! Back in the mid 90’s I started a Non Profit support group to help families whose children had died. It was...
Shay Horner
Jul 9, 20254 min read


Why the AFGI procedure is not recommended.
The AFGI ( Aspiration & Fibrin Glue Injection) procedure was a technique used in the early days of Tarlov Cyst treatment, and is still...
Shay Horner
Mar 19, 20252 min read


Comparing Surgical Outcomes
Surgical Success, or Failure? By Beth Cooper This was written as a response to a commonly asked question in the support groups online. I...
Shay Horner
Feb 11, 20254 min read


Offenses and Social Media
I remember when I was younger, before Social Media, I made an observation that made me really think about offenses. I had 2 friends and...
Shay Horner
Oct 30, 20242 min read


Diverting Your Brain Away From the Pain!
This post is not for Newbies. It’s not for patients that are early to the diagnosis, or for the majority of patients who deal with this...
Shay Horner
Jun 19, 20244 min read


1,000 Paper Cuts
It’s easy to talk about having a good attitude, when there’s no reason not to have a good attitude! The honesty of that saying comes into...
Shay Horner
Feb 25, 20247 min read


The Year of Travel!
Last year was the first year that I had the ability, and hope, that I could withstand an 11 hour flight, to visit Europe. That trip was...
Shay Horner
Feb 12, 20242 min read


So Now You’ve Been Told That You Have AA (adhesive arachnoiditis). What to do Now?
So, you’ve already been diagnosed with one rare and “scary” neurological condition, that doctors don’t know much about, and now you’ve...
Shay Horner
Feb 6, 20246 min read


The Rollercoaster of “Feelings” Decision Making.
Most people that I know, who have peace and wisdom, have been through very difficult struggles to develop those attributes in their...
Shay Horner
Jan 28, 20242 min read


Thank You Admins!
Having been an admin of support groups for decades now, both in real life and online, I have a great understanding of the dedication,...
Shay Horner
Jan 27, 20244 min read
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